Being really confident can be counterintuitive to habitual patterns of thinking, feeling and acting that keep us in our familiar (dis) comfort zoneDetails
A little story about Oprahdom, confidence About a year ago to this very week I was approached by a TV production company about a presenting role. It came out of the blue through someone I had not spoken with for nearly 15 years. Over 6 weeks there were lots of calls back and forth, half a…Details
The Real Confidence workshop shows you how being your real self leads to you feeling confident in more situations for more of the time. If feelings of stress, anxiety or low self-esteem affect your confidence, or if worrying about what other people or your own thought patterns stop you from doing what you really want to do then join Jon & Wanjiku on 4 October for a fun, immersive workshop designed to help you understand how your mind, body and words help or sabotage your sense of self confidence.Details
How confident we feel depends on a variety of external and internal factors. No matter how confident we are, we each have our own version of confidence Kryptonite. For most of us the Kryptonite is our negative and critical internal dialogue. Persistent low confidence is linked to having internal critics that have become so familiar we act on their stories without even being aware we’re sabotaging our confidence.Details
“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence… but it comes from within… It is there all the time. (Anna Freud). This quote led to two insights that are helpful in recover our confidence when it falters:
1.Being confident is NOT a character trait, it’s an internal experience involving thinking, feeling, acting, and behaving.
2.Confidence ebbs and flows according to the stories we tell ourselves about our connection (or not) with ourselves and the world, now, in the past and in the future.
Do not wait; the time will never be ”just right.” Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. Napoleon Hill Self-reflection is a central pillar in my relational therapy, coaching and mentoring work. From personal experience and the…Details
Self-reflection helps you to develop a deeper understanding of how you perceive and process your thoughts, behaviours and actions; it supports you to understand our patterns of receptivity and resistance, patterns that may otherwise be out of your immediate awareness.Details
CBT works for some people suffering particular disorders but nothing, not even CBT, is THE solution for everyone everytime. As a psychotherapist and counsellor I encourage patients to actively take a lead in resolving or coming-to-terms with whatever has brought them to therapy. If I think that CBT or mindfulness, medication or meditation may be suitable I encourage and support their use.Details