How confident we feel depends on a variety of things, some external to us and some internal. No matter how confident we are, each of us has our own version of confidence kryptonite.
There’s no way to prepare a confidence defence which will fit every situation or even different versions of the same situation across time. We cannot control external factors but what we can do is learn to manage our internal responses.
Our internal critic(s) – are usually leading the charge when confidence drops, so this is a good place to begin reflecting on how we regulate our real confidence from the inside out.
Search the web and you will find masses of references to internal critic; many of the good blogs and articles set out a series of suggestions aimed at helping you to learn how to manage your critics so that you can self-regulate.
Internal critics (and champions) are born out of our experiences and the way we think, feel and act on these experiences.
But when it comes to low self-confidence or sudden losses of confidence we need to understand a cruel cycle – our internal critics contribute to unhelpful and habitual thoughts; these thoughts get charged with negative emotions which lead to feelings linked to low self-esteem & low self-worth which in turn leads to low confidence … get the picture?
During the 1 day Real Confidence workshop we explore thought patterns (internal critics) and emotional intelligence; because understanding the link between your thoughts emotions and actions is key to knowing how you manage your confidence in a realistic and sustainable manner.