Confidence & Connection

Connection and confidence are separate but closely linked. Connection feeds confidence it’s being seen, heard, and valued, ; disconnection erodes confidence, it’s being missed, judged / ignored and undervalued.

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Being confident & (dis)comfort zones.

A little story about Oprahdom, confidence About a year ago to this very week I was approached by a TV production company about a presenting role. It came out of the blue through someone I had not spoken with for nearly

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Real Confidence workshop 4 October 2015

The Real Confidence workshop shows you how being your real self leads to you feeling confident in more situations for more of the time. If feelings of stress, anxiety or low self-esteem affect your confidence, or if worrying about what other people or your own thought patterns stop you from doing what you really want to do then join Jon & Wanjiku on 4 October for a fun, immersive workshop designed to help you understand how your mind, body and words help or sabotage your sense of self confidence.

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Confidence comes from within

“I was always looking outside myself for strength and confidence… but it comes from within… It is there all the time. (Anna Freud). This quote led to two insights that are helpful in recover our confidence when it falters:
1.Being confident is NOT a character trait, it’s an internal experience involving thinking, feeling, acting, and behaving.
2.Confidence ebbs and flows according to the stories we tell ourselves about our connection (or not) with ourselves and the world, now, in the past and in the future.

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Knowingly Oversold: The Rise & Demise of CBT

CBT works for some people suffering particular disorders but nothing, not even CBT, is THE solution for everyone everytime. As a psychotherapist and counsellor I encourage patients to actively take a lead in resolving or coming-to-terms with whatever has brought them to therapy. If I think that CBT or mindfulness, medication or meditation may be suitable I encourage and support their use.

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First Meeting

As human beings meaning-making is part of our survival instinct. The issue is not that we make up stories about each other but rather whether we are able to notice that our stories are just that, stories, not the truth about someone.

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