Confidence and connection are separate but they are closely linked. But many people don’t use the link to support their self confidence, whilst others suggest they are separate, for example this quote about “imposter syndrome” from Dr. Young “’¦ it can be difficult to tell whether you’re dealing with a confidence issue or a connection one.” I think connection and confidence are separate but they are closely linked. Connection is feeling seen, being heard, and knowing we are valued, it feeds confidence; disconnection is being missed, judged / ignored and undervalued, the very things that erode confidence.
Functioning from real confidence (standing your truth) is the ability to connect with yourself with compassion, self-respect and little or no self-judgement. Being like this is not the same as arrogance — being arrogant involves contempt for others. Connection with self is the birthplace of healthy self-worth, self-esteem and therefore real confidence.
So how come so many of us sabotage our self-confidence, most often compulsive negative self-talk? What do we spend so much time judging, ignoring and undervaluing ourselves to the extent that we disrupt connection and confidence?
If you’d like to find out how to do the exact opposite — to connect with yourself and tap into your real confidence get in touch via email or call me on 97588 624892.
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When you are confident you believe that you deserve to be seen, heard and valued The opposite is true for disconnection.
- How have you been connecting with yourself today?
- Have you noticed what happens to your confidence when you connect with your real self?
Last week I facilitated a group for people exploring their feelings. Every member of this group was there because they had found ways to numb their feelings and disconnect from themselves in ways which ultimately became life-threatening. They were some of the most courageous people I will ever have the privilege to meet, not because they will develop perfect self-connection ad confidence, but because they have the courage and confidence to work on their disconnection to themselves, others and life.
Being confident involves first connecting to yourself as you are in the moment; sometimes this begins with finding out how you habitually disconnect from your real self… when you connect with your real self, in the reality of what you really think and feel in the moment, you will always discover that you deserve to be seen, heard and valued even when you get it wrong.
Connecting to yourself first before attempting to connect to others is important. When you do this you show-up in your life and given yourself the best chance at being fully confident that you are enough and you are OK as you are whatever you are experiencing.