Being exiled from my real self …

I know what it feels like to “lose’ my confidence.  A few years ago in the midst of what should have been an exciting time of growth and adventure I felt I was losing my confidence.  It was as if I was being exiled from my real self and the life I worked hard to build.

Three insights and a quotation helped me to understand what was happening and to rust I would get through it.

Insight No. 1: I had to accept what was going on in order to let go of whatever was undermining my confidence.

Insight No. 2: I need to get help and support from someone / people who got what I was going through.

Insight No. 3: Confidence is not fixed, it is not something we hold in isolation but rather something that emerges as a result of our relationships with people, places, events…

On the longest and darkest of those days I read a quote from Martin Buber “We can be redeemed only to the extent to which we see ourselves.’ The light came back into my soul through the cracks in my fear and confusion.

Understanding that my confidence is linked to how I think, feel and see myself fuelled of my journey back to me — I was supported to reclaim my unique brand of confidence based on my real self.   It is with Real Confidence that I embrace a slightly different me from the me before my confidence began to ebb away.