Today I came face-to-face with living proof that confidence does not depend on your job title, how much you earn or even your status but it does depend on how we are seen and accepted by other people and by ourselves.  My teacher today was Lucy, aged 3 and 3/4.  She marched up to me and issued an edict –

If you ask people “Do you believe in love? in compassion? in kindness? in friendliness?” they say yes (mostly) but tell them these are words used in workshop settings and you can see them flinch or inwardly roll their eyes. There was nothing touch-feely about being Real!  You cannot be Real if you refuse to acknowledge how you give and receive

I know what it feels like to “lose’ my confidence.  A few years ago in the midst of what should have been an exciting time of growth and adventure I felt I was losing my confidence.  It was as if I was being exiled from my real self and the life I worked hard to build. Three insights and a

Confidence can feel like ocean tides – it rises and falls and is always there even when it appears to have almost disappeared. Unlike tidal flows changes in self-confidence are less predictable. The good news is we can learn to notice and manage the link between three things:  (1) our levels of confidence, (2) what we are thinking, feeling and

The amazing Eloise Ristad in her wonderful book A Soprano on Her Head (1982) says that when a person is ready for change extraordinary things happen.   She is right, but I also think that there is at least one stage missing from her statement. I believe that awareness is a perquisite to being ready and that amazing things, including change,

Last year someone told me something which changed the way I experienced stress, disappointment and thwarted expectation. He said to me ‘Wanjiku, the important thing for you, for all of us, is not that we don’t feel balanced, the real question is what helps you re-centre’ What I took away from my friend was we all have an inner centre,